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Are You A Loser and How To Become a Winner

Are You A Loser and How To Become a Winner

Do you know if you are a loser?

Just spend a minute and think about what you have accomplished so far.  Do you work very hard and nothing seems to work?  Even though you failed at everything but you don’t think you are a loser.  I have a few test questions which will identify if you are a loser or not.

Question 1 – Are you making enough money to have a normal life?

Question 2 – Do you feel frustration when you cannot do what you wanted to do and you think the whole world is against you?

Question 3 – Do you fail at everything that you wanted to achieve?

Question 4 – You don’t like working hard?

Question 5 – You don’t like being in a group and you feel uneasy among other people?

If you answered Yes to all the questions above then you are definitely a loser.

If you are not so convinced, let me give you the personality of a loser.

A loser is someone who fail in everything, the thing could be their job, relationship or their goal in life.  Most losers don’t have a goal and they don’t know what to do with their life.  They just live day to day and try to do things that they enjoy.  The second characteristic of a lose is they don’t like hard work.  Working is a chore and they don’t enjoy working.  So when faced with huge tasks or work that is a bit difficult, they will tend to procrastinate.

They are not very good at relationship for they don’t want to put work into getting a better relationship with other people.  They want others to love them, but they love themselves more than anything.  Helping other people is the last thing on their mind.  Because of this personality, they tends to be anti-social.  They might of couple of friends, but that is all and more than enough for them to handle.

The main reason they become a loser is because they don’t like to work, but without hard work one will never be successful.  They could try lots of things but always failed because it is just not in their character to try hard.  Their reasons for their own failure are never themselves, they could give you a million reasons why it doesn’t work.  Due to the fact that they never see themselves are the problem and they never change.  That is why they think the world is against them, someone or something is stopping them to be successful.

So, do you think you are a loser?

Do you want to become a winner?

If you want to become a winner, the first thing that you need to do is to admit that you are a loser.  Without this admission, you can never become a winner.  The reason is simple – if you have no problem, then there is no problem to solved and you don’t have to change.  Admit to yourself that you are a loser and say “I am a loser, but from now on I want to become a winner.”

You now need to work on your personality.  You have to change the loser mentality and personality to a winner’s mentality and personality.

Here are what you need to do.

  1. Prepare to work hard – don’t be afraid of huge task or jobs.  Breakdown the task into small job and do one thing at a time. Don’t worry about how long it will take and don’t worry about the result.  Tell yourself that you are doing it for fun.  When you see work becomes play, then it will become a lot easier.  Winners use this technique all the time.  Hard work will give you result, always.
  2. Prepare to change – there are many things that you need to change.  Ask yourself why you fail at something, if it is not hard work then it could be you are using the wrong way.  So, try changing the way you do things. For example, some girl want to find a good husband, but they always go to the pub and therefore they always find the wrong guy.  Guys who are always in the pub are losers, just like herself.  Therefore, she need to change location.  The same action every time will produce the same result.
  3. Change your personality – be a people person.  Try to talk to people you like to be friends with.  It could be very hard in the beginning because you might not like people.  You can start by joining a club and make more friends.  Friends are valuable asset to us.  They could help you though tough times and they will share with you the good times.
  4. Help others – when you try helping others, you world will become bigger.  You will learn things that you never know before.  You will become a better person, other people will see you differently.  Most people will return your favour.

If you take one step at a time and slowly you will be a better person. You will no longer be a loser anymore. Your world will become more exciting.  Hard work will become enjoyable.

I wish you good luck.  Could you leave me a comment below and tell me what you think?

Have a nice day.


16 thoughts on “Are You A Loser and How To Become a Winner

  1. I think I’ve lost at a number of things in life. 🙁 I’ve tried very hard to succeed on numerous occasions, especially when it comes to building an online business, but I always end up making stupid mistakes and sabotaging my success.

    I have the work ethic and motivation, and also the desire to succeed in life, but things continually go pear-shaped. When I see all these people enjoying life, buying the things they want, and driving nice cars, etc – and look at my own bank balance, then it makes me feel like a loser.

    Now it’s time to stop the sabotage and become the WINNER I was meant to be!


    • Hi Neil,

      What you need to do first is to identify when you went wrong. Then write it down on a piece of paper and stick it somewhere in front of you, it will serve as a reminder.  The reason I told you to do that is because you seem to have the habit to repeat your mistake.  Habit is very hard to change, therefore you need constant reminder in the beginning.  

      Even if you have shake off your loser attitude, things might not work out.  You need to understand that life is not all about money.  Happiness comes from within yourself.  There are lots of other things that can make you happy.  Don’t compare yourself with other people and try to understand “the meaning of life”.  Once you understand what life really is then you will become happy. 

      Nevertheless, I wish you success in your business.



  2. I enjoyed reading your post. I think we need to believe in good things in our lives and then the good things multiply. If someone focuses on the bad things, then the bad things are multiplying. This is something I have observed in my life and try to follow. If you fail somewhere, don’t focus on that. Just pass on and keep going towards your aim. Then sooner or later you will get what you want.

    • Hi Arta,

      Thanks for visiting my website.  You are right, if we focus on the good things our life would be a lot easier.  It is the same as people.  If you believe people are kind and good, you will enjoy your life so much more than if you assume everyone is bad. 

      I like your attitude of not focusing on the failure.  I wish you a good weekend.



  3. I find using the term loser on yourself as an identity could possibly make you feel like a failure if you’re not careful by labeling yourself long enough to believe. Although I do understand where you are getting at with this technique.

    I can see the steps you posted is to help you change your thinking to be a winner. But others have to work on their thinking and personality to actually succeed and achieve their goals. I’d like to tell myself that I can achieve what I want, believe in myself that I can accomplish it and that I am a winner.

    • Hi Rosa,

      Thanks  for the comment.  Yes, you can tell yourself that you can achieve what you want by positive thinking.  Act like a winner and become a winner.  A very powerful way to succeed.  It is different from my method and I am sure it will work too. 



  4. As long as you try your best to do the right thing and help people when you can, you’re not a loser. That’s what life should be all about anyway. Age old question: Imagine if people could get along?

    Humanity could touch the stars and beyond! Anyways, success comes from ambition. However, just because you have ambition doesn’t mean you’ll be successful. Ambition is the KEY ingredient to success but you have to work very hard for it. Determination is another KEY to SUCCESS.

    You have to fail in order to succeed! It takes a lot of hard work to learn what not to do. Remember, loser is a state-of-mind! Do nothing, get nothing in return! That’s how it works!

    Wayne Gretzky (Greatest Hockey Player Ever!) once said, you will miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.

    The Nike theme says it all: “JUST DO IT!”

    Best wishes to all,


    • Hi Jack,

      You are absolutely correct, JUST DO IT.  Success build on failure.  

      Best wishes to you too.


  5. I have a slightly different take on the issue. I think that if you identify yourself as a loser, you’ll lose in life. I agree in the winning ways that you’ve outlined. But if I am not succeeding, I prefer to see myself as a winner who hasn’t won yet. I do like the strategies for success that you’ve laid out here.

    • Hi Nik,

      If you don’t identify yourself as a loser then there will never be enough emotional energy to re-invent yourself. You can see yourself as a winner who hasn’t won, but without the drive from inside of you and you will never change. 

      Your way of thinking is very common, most of us don’t want to see ourselves as losers.  Accepting our own shortcoming is one of the hardest thing in life. Winners know what their own shortcoming and will try to change it.  Therefore, admission is the first step to be successful and you cannot take the second step without taking the first step.  

      Nevertheless, I wish you all the best and be a winner tomorrow.



  6. I was once a loser ,I used to work hard but as a result I got a salary that was useless to my life and I was struggling to survive .Yes you are right without admitting you will never move .

    The day that I admitted that I’m walking in the wrong way in my finances,things changed because I started to see a good vision of what my life should look like.Now I’m putting much more effort in things that benefit me 100%.

    • Hi Lorrinc,

      We have to admit we have problems before we can start to improve.  I am happy for you that you see that you were struggling and did what you have to do to improve your financial situation.  It is good that it works out for you.  

      Most losers don’t take any action though they are not happy with their current situation and they only complain. Complain is useless without action.  

      Thanks for sharing your thought.



  7. Hi, I agree that someone who answers yes to all five questions is definitely a loser.

    But what if someone answers yes to some of them.

    I can think many examples of people who hate hard work but they help others or they work hard but they cannot make enough to have a normal life.

    I guess there are many types of losers but sure anyone who works hard and improves his/her personality can achieve great anything he wants.

    • Hi Llias,

      If someone answers yes to some of the questions then they are not a loser.  No one is perfect and we all have some weakness.  People who are willing to help other people is definitely not a loser, I admire them.

      We all work hard to improve our life and also people around us.

      Thanks for the comment.



  8. I wonder how receptive someone that truly would be if they fit the criteria that you have set. How do you motivate a loser? As you defined a loser, several people instantly came into my mind. I thought if I shared this article with them, would it have any impact on change. I think I wlll share it as an experiment. I will report back with my results. Take Care.

    • Hi Heather,

      It is interesting that you want to share it with your friends.  Losers seldom change, not unless they have the need or strong desire to change.  Situation like losing a job, losing a love one or other tragic circumstances which force them to change. Otherwise, they would want to remain in their comfort zone. 

      I can already predict their reaction when they read this article, they will just say it is bullshit.

      Thanks for your comment.


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