What Is Love?
This is one of the most perplexing questions for mankind. Thousands of years have passed, and we are still wondering – What is Love?ss
Love comes in all shapes, sizes and form. Love is bold – we want to let the whole world know that we are in love. Love is timid – it hides in the deepest corner of our mind. Love is generous – we want to share it with everyone. Love is ugly – when jealousy consumes us.
Sometimes love is wonderful and sometimes love is hurtful. It is very confusing and difficult to understand what love really is.
What actually do we mean when we say, “I love you.”
I am going to attempt to answer this question.
First, let me give you the definition from Wikipedia – Love is a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes that range from interpersonal affection to pleasure.
Why love comes in a variety of form?
It is because love comes from within a person, like you and me. So the love we give out depends on who we are; that means it is the character within ourselves. That is the reason why there is no one definition of love which is capable of describing the love for everybody.
Selfish people and self-centred people give selfish love. These people love themselves more than others.
I saw a number plate on a car once, it has “CFCW”. I asked the owner of the car what doses it means.
“It is Car, Fishing, Children and Wife,” he answered proudly.
That is his priority of what he loves in life. Whether it is a joke or not, I do not know. But I do know there are many people in this world who love only themselves. When they say, “I love you.” The meaning is – your money, your power or something you can give them.
I don’t know if you have read the storybook or seen the movie – Gone with the Wind. It was a very old movie. Scarlett O’Hara depicted the typical selfish love; her goal was to get herself out of poverty.
Selfish people’s love are possessive, they think they own you after you are marriage. You become part of their life.
Materialistic people gives love with conditions. Most of us belongs to this category. It is because we lives in a materialistic world, so it is who we are. The difference is only in the scale of how materialistic we are.
The divorce rate is very high in many countries. If people do love each other when they get marry, why do they divorce? It was because they cannot get the lifestyle they desired. When they first married, they hope the other half could give them what they want. But reality prove them wrong.
Or their spouse could not perform within the conditions that they required. They said a husband should behave and act in a certain way.
Most marriage breakup are because of financial problem. It is not true love which bound them together, there is no surprise their marriage breakup so easily.
With materialistic people, even the love for their children is conditional. The conditions range from obedience, good look, hard working, cleverness and so on.
(To show a materialistic person how much you love them – give them a very expensive gift. Examples are diamond, gold, car or yacht. I wish you don’t have to do this.)
Temperamental people gives temperamental love. I am sorry to say that this is more of a ladies thing. Their love changes with their emotions. One minute they could love you dearly, but the next minute they don’t want to see you.
It is very difficult to live with someone like this. It will give you a sense of insecurity because you will never be sure if they really love you or not.
Unloved people who could not give love. Some people don’t know how to love others. It was because they have never received any love from anybody when they are young. These people normally grew up in problem family, or from orphanage.
They don’t know what love is. To them, this is a cruel world and there are no love; they have never seen it. They would not understand the feeling of love even if they see it in the movies, they don’t believe it is real.
You need to learn how to love. The feeling of love and the action which we performed are two different things. There are many people who don’t know what to do in order to show their love.
Who can give true love? There are not many people who belongs to this category. People who can give true love are truly non-materialistic, unselfish and who understand what the purpose of life is.
Their love not only confine to their spouse or their families. They love everyone on earth as their brothers and sisters. They can even sacrifice themselves for the one who love. This the most beautiful love of all.
So, now you should know what love really is. Love is who we are. That is why love has so many forms and faces. That is why it is so hard for us to understand.
Do you think I have answered this question?