What Makes You Happy?
Today, I want to talk about something happy, other than always talking about self-improvement. There are only so much we can improve. I would like to ask you a question – What makes you happy? Please leave me a comment and tell me the answer. I would love to know.aa
Happiness is the second most important things in our life. Without happiness, we would feel life is not worth living or life is dreadful. To enjoy life, happiness is a must have. But in reality, there are people who never had happiness. Might be they had, but they have totally forgotten how it feels like to be happy.
What is happiness?
Happiness is a state of mind, an attitude, a hope or contentment. It could mean different thing to different people. It is a very interesting conversation starter. Next time when you see your friends, ask them: What does happiness means to you? and also, What makes you happy?
They would tell you that happiness means:
- when they can sit down and enjoy a cup of tea
- when they made a lot of money
- when a good friend come to visit
- when they bought a new sports car
- they don’t have to go to work
No matter what their answers are; it will give you a better understand of them – what they like and what they don’t like. Also, you would know what kind of person they are.
It is a fun thing to talk about the happy moments in their life and also you can share yours with them. You will forget the hardship of life at that moment. It is the same as some of us called it “count our blessings”.
I found a very nice article – What is happiness?
In this article, it said, “True happiness is to be found within, in the state of our hearts.” It is interesting to me that it said “in the state of our hearts” and not “our mind”. Could be he wanted to say it is our heart’s desire where happiness could be found?
What is the different between heart and mind? Heart is desire and it is emotional; where mind is sensible and logical. It is sometimes dangerous to follow your heart without good reasons. For example, you love someone else’s husband – should you follow your heart? I don’t think so.
After you had recalled those happy moments in your life, you will realize what makes you happy. Are you a people’s person or you like to be successful? Understanding yourself is the first step in finding happiness.
How do we find happiness?
Happy moments does not last; they come and go – like the tides of the sea. After a very happy event, you would find yourself feeling sad afterwards. What goes up must come down, and the higher you went, the harder you fall. It is very hard to handle if you don’t understand this concept; even if you do, you still feel sad. So how do we keep ourselves happy?
It is an impossible task and you can never be always happy. The best you can do is to have a quiet moment, or some will keep themselves busy so they cast the feeling aside.
Some people prefer not to be too happy at joyful times and not too sad when to face with tragedy. They like to keep a peace of mind and they feel happier this way. A flat-line rather than up-and-down.
Do what you love.
To find happiness. The first rule is to do what you love. I have a friend who loves to make model cars, robots and tanks. He has a garage full of all his creations. He also posts Youtube video to teach others the techniques of making models and tell others where to buy materials and tools.
For me, I love gardening, reading, writing, swimming, hiking, learning, debating and all sorts of things. In quiet moments, I love to think.
What about you – what do you love doing?
Keeping yourself busy.
Do you know that time flies when you are busy? You forget about all your problems. If you have lots of hobbies like me, you will never be bored.
Happy people are those who always have things to do. They like to learn new stuff all the time and keep their mind busy.
I cannot overestimate the joy it brings when helping other people. You have to try it yourself. When you are always thinking about yourself and you will be miserable. You are not the only one in this world. Take care of your families, your friends and your neighbours. They will reward you with the happiness you are looking for.
Human is social animals, we cannot live alone by ourselves. If you are not happy, it is because you have no friends. When you help others, you will become their friends. (If you have problem making friends, I will teach you how to do it. I will write an article and teach you the techniques on how to make friends.)
Meditation can make you happy. So learn how to do it. You can take an on line course or go to the library and borrow a self-learning book. I have an article – What is meditation? which give you some basic ideas of how to do meditation.
There are scientific proofs that meditation can remove anxiety, increase positivity and improve your health.
If you don’t understand what is life’s purpose, you will never be happy. I will leave it to you to find out why and also what is your purpose of life. I can tell you that I found happiness after I have found the answer.
Below are some of the questions that I had asked myself when I wasn’t happy. I don’t have the answers before, but now I do.
- Why some people are so rich and I am so poor?
- Why some people are so handsome but not me?
- What is the purpose of life?
- Why criminal makes million and decent people make so little?
- Why we want to be good when nice guys always come last?
Do you know the answers to these questions?
Have a happy day!