How to get out of your comfort zone

Before I teach you how to get out of your comfort zone, let me tell you a story.


Joyce is sitting in front of the TV having her dinner.  Nothing fancy, just spaghetti with salmon she cooked up herself.  Her husband Eric is working overtime in his office because of he needs to meet the deadline of an important project.  It is the third time this month he didn’t come home for dinner.

They have married for five years now.  The first couple of years seems very exciting and romantic.  In the beginning, Eric would bring home a little gift after work every day.  It could be a box of chocolate, flower or even a rock – when Eric couldn’t come up with new ideas of what to get her. Everyday Joyce would look forward to her evening gift, she thought it was so romantic. She would treasure his little gifts, even the piece of rock.  He stopped doing that after two years.

Joyce is watching TV, but her mind is thinking of something else.  She is wondering what her friend Louise is doing at this moment.  Louise was her best friend since high school and she is living in Spain.  Since they turned twenty, Louise has been extremely adventurous.  She traveled to South America, Asia, Europe and countless other places.  She is now with a rich boyfriend and they are having a good time in Spain.  Since they are best friends, Louise keeps sending her postcards everywhere she went.  Joyce envied of her best friend.  How come she is so lucky?

“Why do I choose to marry?” She asked herself.  She knows she is the kind of person who wants to stay in her comfort zone.  She likes routines and doing everything exact the same way every single day.  She don’t feel safe in new places and new friends.  Life is a bit boring at the moment and she wonder what she can do.  She doesn’t even know what she wanted to do.  Doing something different means that she has to step out of her comfort zone.

“What should I do?” Joyce asked herself as her mind drifted far away in some exotic places.


There are many people who are like Joyce who don’t do anything because they don’t feel comfortable when stepping outside of their comfort zone.  There is one thing they don’t know – they will miss out a lot of things that life offers.  For example, friendship, excitement, new experiences, knowledge, and others.  I believed life is experience.  If you do nothing else other than eat and breath then you are wasting your life.

We come to this world to experience, to take this journey.  Just like we go on a holiday trip and try to see as much as we can and do as much as we can.  Enjoy the scenery,  the exotic food, the people and the culture that we visit.  Life is exactly like that.

No one go on holiday trip and stay in the hotel and do nothing.

Ask yourself, ” what do you like to do, who do you like to be and where would you like to go?”

How to get out of your comfort zone?

First, you need to know the reason why you like to stay in your comfort zone.  I will give you a few to start with.

  • laziness
  • not comfortable with strangers
  • fear of failure
  • fear of rejection
  • too busy
  • don’t bother
  • you have no money

Whatever reason you have for not doing anything, they are just excuses.  There is no better incentive in life than to live a life that is more fulfilling, that means more experiences.

Just imagine this scenario and it will help to motivate you to take action.

You are eighty years old lying in bed by yourself.  You are sick and the doctor just told you that you don’t have long to live.  You think about all the people you know and how they are before you leave this world.  Also, you try to remember what you have achieved or done in your life, but you found that you didn’t do anything in particular at all, not to mention any achievement.  Now it is too late, you don’t have time and you don’t have the health and energy to do anything anymore.  You wasted your life away.  You wish you could have do things that you always wanted to do.  You just wish……..

The most important thing is to take action and try doing the things that you wanted to do.  Action speaks louder than words.  You don’t need any plan, be spontaneous.  Like a little child who see everything is exciting and new.  Kids are not afraid of falling, they just take one step at a time – you will know what I mean if you have seen a toddler taking her first steps.

Think of the reward you will be getting as you proceed and you will become a different person than what you used to be.  Your comfort zone will become bigger and bigger, then one day it will disappear and the world is your playground.  You will dare to do whatever your wanted to do and you will feel as free as a bird.  You would wonder why you were so silly before, what is there to be scared about.


Recently, I have many people registered on my website. I thank you for your support and it motivates me to write more.  Otherwise, I would have stopped writing.  It is for you who I wrote these articles.  I hope you can leave me comments, either to tell me you like my stories or you have different opinions on the subject.  I welcome you to do that.  Also, if there is anything else you want me to talk about, please feel free to tell me.

Have a nice day!



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