Over the year, the more I started to understand people the more I learnt that many of us don’t know how to be happy in life. You might not agree with me, but that is the reality. Just look beside yourselves and you will see that there are many miserable people. Some might not show it on their face, but deep down they are suffering. If they are not suffering, but they are not genuinely happy.
The happiest people are children. Why are children happy?
- Children don’t have anything to worry about.
- They don’t have to go to work.
- They don’t have any responsibilities.
- They don’t have any rules to be happy.
As we grew up, we start to understand this world is not built for us to be happy. To be more precise, this society is not built for us to be happy. There are all kinds of rules and regulations which burden us and make up unhappy.
Some of these rules are.
- If you don’t have money, you don’t get anything – not even food.
- If you drive too fast, you will get a fine.
- You have to pay tax with your earning. Rich people can pay less tax.
- If you want a house, you have to spend many years of your life to pay it off.
Besides these, there are many bad things happened to us.
- The death of a loved one.
- We lost something significant. We lose our child, our house, our health or our limbs.
As a result of these rules and suffering, many become unhappy. How could we be happy with such huge burden upon our shoulders? How could we be happy when faced with a crisis?
It is important you know exactly what makes you unhappy. Spend some time on your own and think about your life. Then at the end, think about what makes you happy.
No matter how difficult life is, you can choose to be miserable for the rest of your life. I know some people like to be miserable and unhappy. If this is not what you want, you want to be happy. You can!
5 Steps to become happy
- Forgive and forget
If someone has done something bad to you, you need to forgive them. This will be hard, but I am sure you can do it. If you cannot forgive, at least you forget about it. Live your life like nothing has ever happened.
I told my son one day, “If I died, you just live your life as nothing has ever happened. I want you to be happy. Dying is part of life and no one can change it. You shouldn’t let something which you cannot control to ruin your happiness.”
There are many things that we cannot control, so don’t be upset about it. For example, the weather, accidents or losing money.Forget what has happened in the past and live for the future. Every single second of your life, your are entering the future. No one ever lives life going backward to the past.
- Thankful for what you have and what you don’t have
If you are poor, do not be despaired. Poor people have things that rich people don’t have. Money is not a key factor to happiness. You can read my other article – Choose to be poor.
It is the same as contentment. Just be content with what you have and be happy. Learn to enjoy the simple things in life.
- Friendship and companionship
If you don’t have any friends, you need to go out of your way to get some. Humans are social animals, we need friends and companions. The statistics show that those who don’t have friends live an unhappy life. You can join some activity clubs and get to know more people.
We come to this world to love one another and it is people who brings meaning to our life. It is not material and it is not achievement. There is nothing more fulfilling than love. Therefore, you have to love other people or at least love someone and not yourself.
- Live a simple life
Live a life with little material. It is because material procession and money corrupt your soul. When you live a simple life, you will be more understanding of others. Your goal in life will change from money to love and knowledge. It will bring you happiness.
Most people are unhappy because they love money. They don’t really understand what life is supposed to be. They follow others blindly without using their brain.
Interestingly, there are only few who could be rich and over 95% of people will be poor. If you love money, the chances that you will be unhappy is very high. A lot of people spend that whole life chasing riches, but at the end it is futile. Even some of those who becomes rich are unhappy. Do you know why?
Is life all about achievement and money?
- Make a choice to become happy
It is very important that you make it a decision to be happy. Tell yourself that starting from now, you will try not to let anything upset you. You will learn to become happy. It takes effort and practice. Learn to become a child, take an interest in everything you encounter. Learn something new every day.
Some people lose interest in everything and become very boring. There are so many interesting things in this world. For example, science, craft, art, people and more.
Are you a happy person? Would you love to become happy?
Make a decision today to become happy. Find out what you love to do. Follow the steps I have given you above and start learning.
I would love to hear from you. What is the happiest moment in your life? Why do you feel happy at that moment?